Routines and Structure
Routines give children a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline. A predictable routine allows children to feel safe, and to develop a sense of mastery in handling their lives. Routines teach kids how to constructively manage themselves and their environments.
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Why Kids Need Routines
Children handle change best if it is expected and occurs in the context of a familiar routine. A routine allows children to feel safe and develop a sense of mastery in handling life.
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Routines that Toddlers Can Understand
Children function best with structure. Toddlers feel small in the world. Most things happen TO them. They crave predictability, knowing what will happen.
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