When we're angry, it's because we think we need to protect ourselves from some threat.
We forget that a misbehaving child is not a threat, just a confused or upset young human with an immature brain. We forget that we're escalating the drama by acting in a threatening way ourselves. We forget that our responsibility as a parent is to act like a grown-up, calmly coaching our child so they can learn, grow, and develop the ability to regulate their own emotions and behavior.
When your child's behavior sends you into your own temper tantrum, you'll be sure that your child is the problem. But any time you "lose it" that's a sign that you're triggered.
When You Get Angry At Your Child
How to Handle Your Anger at Your Child. In our calm moments we know that we could handle any parenting moment much better from a state of calm. But in the storm of our anger, we feel righteously entitled to our fury.Read More
Honesty, Anger and Parenting
Don't you have to tell kids you're disappointed, sad or angry about their behavior to get them to act right?Read More
Angry? Don't lose it. Use it!
Yes, you CAN be that calm parent. It starts with using your anger as a learning opportunity.Read More
When Your Child Makes You Want To Scream: 10 Steps to Calm, Connect & Teach
When your kids get wild and your buttons get pushed, here's your path to less drama, more love.Read More
Can You Love Unconditionally When You're Furious?
Loving unconditionally when you're angry isn't easy. But nothing changes your child's behavior quite as quickly.Read More